Secrets To Get To
The Heart Of Your Loved One
By Caroline Therancy
The other day, I was
home with my sweet love when my sister called. She was in a bad
mood because she was babysitting my cat (I was out of town) and
my cat had made a mess in her sofa. I was sorry that happened.
I went in the bedroom to think it over in silence.
After a while, my
sweet love joined me and the first thing he said was :
‘’I can see this situation
seems to bother you, isn’t it?’’
In that moment, I
thought he was the greatest boyfriend ever. I felt understood
and comforted. I was in a better disposition to be the best partner
that I could be for him. Then I realized that he was talking the
same language of love as mine. I am a Visual and I understand
better when we communicate with me in visual ways. He used the
words ‘’see’’ and ‘’seems’’. I am certain that the Auditory and
Feeling people out there don’t really get it but, Visuals out
there might better understand how I must have felt.
Having the same communication
style or using the communication style that your partner is using
greatly avoids missed connections, unnecessary challenges and
increase intimacy by reducing the events of resentment. Passion
starts to fade away when there is build up resentments. Communicating
the right way is one of the tools to keep lasting romance.
There are 3 types
of Love Language; according to the author, Tracy Cabot (How to
make a man fall in love with you), you have the Visual, the Auditory
and the Feeling style. We use all of those 3 ways to communication
but one is predominant.
How can we identify
Visual expresses enthusiasm
or stress similar to those comments: ‘’Don’t you SEE how this
is amazing?!’’ or ‘’ You’ll SEE. You’ll love it’’ or ‘’ You don’t
LOOK in a great shape today’’. An Auditory will say ‘’This SOUNDS
good’’ when a Feeling will say ‘’This FEELS good. I have the IMPRESSION
that will work’’ or ‘’I know how you FEEL’’ or ‘’I understand…’’
With Visual, it’s
the look that counts. They usually are well dressed. They take
care of their appearance. They relax in a beautiful, well harmonized
environment. Things have to be in order around them. They look
for partners who take care of their looks too. When visual think,
their eyes look up in the air because they are ‘’visualizing’’
what they will say or the situation in their mind. They will tell
you ‘’how things looked’’. They don’t talk about their feelings
early in the relationship because they need to ‘’see’’ where the
relationship is leading first. They like to watch television,
read, arts, landscaping, etc… anything that stimulates their eyes.
An Auditory are very
sensitive the sounds around them. They always have music at home
or in their car. They talk a lot because they like to ‘’hear’’
themselves talk. They are easily distracted by noise. They adore
being talked softly in the ear. The quality of the voice of their
partner can be a true turn on or a definitive turn off. An Auditory
will look on the side when they think because they have to hear
the voice in their head. Auditory will tell you ‘’how things sounds’’.
Auditory will have the latest stereo system in town, they prefer
going to concerts, they like to talk on the phone and they have
a special talent for music.
A Feeling person reacts
on intuitions and their guts. They are willing to sacrifice elegance
for comfort (no high heels for women and tight collar shirt for
men). They want to feel great at all times and in every situation.
They look for partners who are great at sharing feelings. They
are perceived as people with a great heart. Women are easily seduced
by Feeling Men because they have the ability to express their
sensitive side and are great listeners, so common to women’s needs.
Feeling people like
to touch, to kiss and they greatly need a constant physical expression
from their partner. Feeling people look down when they think because
they need to get the ‘’impression’’. Feeling people will tell
you ‘’how things felt’’. They like to relax lye in the sun, work
out, massage, drink, and dance, and eat great foods. They will
most likely do risky activities because of the rush of extreme
sensations. They are looking for trills.
If you are with a
partner that has the same communication style as yours, enjoy
yourselves. If you have two different communication styles, don’t
conclude that you are not made for one another and it’s maybe
time to see a counselor (a therapist or… a lawyer!). This article
will give you more tools to help communication at the maximum
and get a deeper connection with your mate or future mate.
How can we capture
the heart of a Visual, an Auditory or a Feeling person?
About The Author
Who is Caroline? She
is a growing expert on love, relationship, romance because she
is reading a lot on the subject. She is presently in a fulfilling
relationship and she is gladly sharing her knowledge and experience.
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